Three new things (for me) about goal setting

This time my letter is spoken. It's a short video- a webinar style presentation - my first. And it's not great production wise in my opinion. If you want to know why I think that, read on below the video to find out what I learned from making it. Onward and upward- next time will be better!

But content wise it's fab! (Also my opinion.) Don't take it from me, watch it and decide. Here's a summary of what's included. 

1. Making three levels of goals so as not to make a stick to beat yourself with 

2. A demonstration of the old rocks, stones sand analogy with real rocks stones and gravel

3. Being in the mood to carry out action

What I learned from recording a short webinar

Some of these are so obvious when I write them down that it's embarrassing. However, to help you out in case you would like to make one and avoid these pitfalls, and for my future reference, I am recording them here. While blushing.  

Don't have your script to the side

Right, so now I know why newsreaders and everybody except me have their running order BEHIND the camera, not to one side. It means that I am looking up and to the side all the time to remind myself where I am up to. I look decidedly shifty. 

Don't wear bangles 

Wondering what that clunky noise is? Me- being demonstrative and talking with my hands and therefore banging my bangles on the table right next to the microphone. Duh! 

Don't do Q&A on your first gig

Excellent though this was for the participants it made for an awkward back and forth on the recording. I had to edit it out as every time someone spoke the software went to their camera.  Some of them had a grey and white outline- some had a black screen and no one had given me permission to record them.  Several hints here. You can see them. I can see them. Now. With that extra clear hindsight we all have. 

One good thing

Using Zoom was excellent. I have a free account and can have up to 100 people at a meeting of this sort which is plenty at the moment, and it allows me to record it at a pretty good quality. It works well with low bandwidth internet (in semi-rural Australia always a consideration). I am using it for my coaching and thinking about moving to a paid account soon. 

Happy planning for your next webinar and  goal-setting and ask me any questions on either in the comments. 

turn big goals into stepping stones

Woman on bus: People ask me how did I lose 52kg in a year... and I say I didn't. 
Friend: But you did! 
Woman: No- I lost 10kg the 5 kg then another 5kg and so on. Cause big goals like that are way too hard, and if anyone had told me you are going to lose 52kg I would have said bullshit!
And not even started.
Small goals are achievable. 

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I know it sounds like I made this up to prove a point but no.   I have it scrawled in my writer’s notebook . (Which is why I carry my writer’s notebook with me everywhere by the way- people say the most beautiful things.) 

A big goal can be overwhelming. It feels and looks huge, like a mountain, a cliff, a wall.  Instead of your goal being a place you want to get to, it turns into a block that comes right up against your nose and stops you before you begin. 

Yet we need to be stretched by something. To be challenged without being daunted. 

So, here's what I do. And it's nothing you haven't heard before somewhere.

It’s called breaking it down, chunking it into pieces, eating the elephant ( eeeuch) one bite at a time. 

Here's my example.

And it's an easy one because it relates to fitness which lends itself to these types of things. It's also a real one, and as an approach can be transferred to just about anything. 

First off, I work in 90-day increments. Even with year-long projects or goals, I break them down to see where I need to be in 90 days. That's the length of time I can easily picture and work within. And there are four of them in a year. That works out nicely. 

My darling son recently challenged me to ride 30kms in a week on my bike. Now for some people this is no challenge at all but given I couldn't pump the tyres up without a serious attack of puffing and panting, it was for me. In fact, it seemed ridiculous. He kept encouraging me and believing in me though. Bless him. And I said I would give it a go. 

First off, I set the challenge at 90 days instead of the 30 days he had proposed. And then I broke the first 30 days down into weeks with a weekly target. 
Here's what that looks like in diagram form. 



Then I transferred all my attention to Week One Day One. I am currently in Week Three and on target.

I venture to guess that starting at 5km twice a week or even 2.5 km every day would have proven too much too soon for poor unfit me and I would have given up.

But making baby steps for myself, (plus knowing DS was waiting for me to check in and report back which is the subject of another blog on having a Measurability Mate) got me out of bed and into the saddle. 

Have a look at your goals for the year. Which ones are enormous? Steep? Massive?

How might you with a stroke of the crayon, carve that mountain of rock into artistic stepping stones that you can dance lightly across? 

Diligence and intuition

I'm not sure what that word conjures up for you, but to me, it feels like a grey word, papery and dry. I see ledgers and dusty tomes full of numbers and Dickensian figures hunched over cramped desks.

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Apparently, not only do I have an imagination, I am a drama queen with it. 

All these interpretations of mine make it strange that I would choose Diligence to be my thematic word for the year. 

There is a very sound reason. Or rather, there is an irrational purpose behind this choice.

I didn't choose it. It chose me. 

First up, a thematic word for the year is one that overarches your efforts, like the sky above. Rather than resolutions, I have found having such a word and reminding myself of how to apply it to projects, task and conversations can be very helpful. You may have seen Beth's Vision Board with her word TRUST artistically emblazoned across the centre. (Why couldn't I have a great word like that?)

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So, this year, before starting my own Vision Board and attendant goal-setting I turned within and asked my voice of inner wisdom to offer me a... and before I had even finished thinking that far the word Diligence hit my brain screen, gently but forcibly. 

The part of me that sees the picture described earlier, just as gently and forcibly said, No, wait not that one! But it was too late. 

I had begun to consider what this meant. And since I trust my intuition to put me on the right path, I gave it some thought. I had to reluctantly concede that yes, what I needed in my life was indeed diligence. 
The dictionary's more down to earth definition of this word is; persistent effort or work; being of industrious character. 

And this is where I often fall.  Lack of persistence means I don't follow-up. I start things without finishing them, and although I assess myself as a hard worker and others often comment on that, there are areas such as my finances (confession time!) that are sadly neglected. Cause they're not fun. 

When I start to observe aspects of my life and work, I see definite uses for this action. I need more persistence of effort. Especially around money and paperwork. 

And I know my intuition rarely steers me wrong.

In the past, I have tried to ignore my inner voice, overlook it or override it. And that has not served me well.  
This year, I am up for Diligence. 

I wonder what will happen?